W e have all seen them; confident women who seem to effortlessly draw
men to them and who seem to enjoy their company without taking men too
seriously. Poised women dressed well, mildly flirting with men, and
seemingly enjoying life in general. Chances are, that woman is a domme.
She may appear nice to you but the men looking into her eyes are not
deceived. They know what she is and most will find her intriguing and
very, very seductive. A domme represents forbidden territory to most
men. She is something different, something new, and something
intoxicating. We all are aware of how attractive “forbidden fruit” is.
For him, she is Cleopatra wrought anew, attended by all the allure of a
not-so-silken dalliance.
She also tends to strike fear in men’s hearts. A multi-orgasmic,
sexually awake, and entirely self-aware woman can be very intimidating.
This is not what we wish to do. Our aim is to acquire all of the allure
and none of the fear.
Dommes are not glamorous, but they are not cute either. They do not go
out into the world wielding whips and wearing thigh-high boots. Forget
the stereotypes. You do not need a completely new wardrobe. You do not
need to play “dress-up” either. The Dommes I know wear sheath dresses
with high-heeled pumps and look very much like any other stockbroker. It
is not the costume that matters, it is all about attitude. You can learn
this.
Developing the “command attitude” is very easy. You simply have to
accept the concept that you are in control and in charge. Mind you that
being in charge also means being responsible. There are a few rules you
must learn before you begin. The first is that you never dominate anyone
who is unwilling. They must consent. Going along with the idea
constitutes consent. If at any time they decide not to continue, you
must stop. Next, you must not leave anyone tied up for more than 45
minutes at any one time. It is bad for them. Finally, you must never
ever tie him up and leave the room. Violating any of these rules is a
serious error because you are putting him in harm’s way. You must always
remember that you are dealing with another human being and that you are
totally responsible for his welfare. Do not make your play into a
nightmare that will haunt him and taint any relationships he may have
afterward. We are only here for fun.
This is why I do not use whips. I like my men, and I respect them since
it takes courage to hand over control to another. Therefore, I do not
ask them to do anything dangerous or distasteful. I am assuming that you
care for your man or men as well. This is all about pleasure and
fantasies; nothing more.